I’m a writer at heart—period.

WEA_WritingsWriting is my happy place! My sweet spot! My comfort zone! I’ve come to call writing my “native language,” the means by which I embrace and express my most authentic, internal self.

My two favorite quotes about writing come from Ernest Hemmingway. The first quote is easy, eloquent and altogether true : “A writer must write what he has to say, not speak it.”  The second quote is harder, but equally honest: “There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit at a typewriter and bleed.”

Most of the time, I write for myself. But much of the time, I also write on behalf of those who HAVE deep things to say, but who don’t (for one reason or another) actually say them.

For all of those others—my fellow human beings, who experience life with the same surge of intensity and inspiration—this blog is dedicated to YOU.

Here’s another great Hemingway quote: “As a writer, you should not judge, you should understand.” As a writer, I write about things that are important to me, first and foremost. But as a blogger, I also want my writing to serve, support and inspire those who read it. So I’d love to know: What topics do YOU want to read about? What issues do you think are important-yet-overlooked, urgent-yet-unaddressed? Send me an email (crystalmor@mac.com) and let’s get a conversation started!

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PROJECT NAME CHANGE is now legally underway!

PROJECT NAME CHANGE is now legally underway!

38 years ago, my parents named me Crystal Rae Nelson. It’s a designation I’ve changed three times in the past two decades, each time inspired by a shift in […]

Trauma Speaks. Healing Talks Back.

In my last blog post, I wrote about “Life Language,” exploring how the words we speak, the words we hear, and the words we exchange with others are both practical and powerful. This week, I’m […]

Life Language

In my mid-twenties, I spent two years living and working in Jerusalem, Israel. My Hebrew language skills were conversant at best—good enough to order coffee, take a taxi or ask directions. I worked in an […]

Gratitude: Give Me a Break

You know those times when life just gets heavy?

When you’ve absorbed yourself SO deeply into something SO significant, you lose track of time and space and any responsible sense (gulp) of basic self-care? When you […]

A for Addiction: The Scarlet Sisterhood

Nine years ago, when my husband first started attending Twelve Step meetings, he came home one night with an analogy that made PERFECT sense to both of us. His sponsor (a doctor, incidentally) had suggested […]

On That Day

On this date last year, life completely SHATTERED for one of my youngest coaching clients. (In the betrayal trauma world, we often call this anniversary “D Day,” referencing the date someone discovers her partner’s infidelity, […]

Of Weeds and Warfare

Historically… I hate gardening.

Growing up in the midwest, my mother spent hours planning and planting beautiful gardens around our home. She solicited my brother’s help for weeding, trimming and watering. My dad helped with […]

Evidence of the Invisible

Last Thursday was Babysitting Day. My husband and I woke up early, hopped in the car, braved morning traffic, and arrived in time for breakfast with two of our favorite family kiddos.

The way I see […]

Back to Me, Myself and I

FROM “MY NEEDS? WHAT NEEDS?” (PART 3 OF 3)

Toward the beginning of my recovery, I encountered AA’s Seventh Tradition, the one that suggests that Twelve Step groups be “fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.” I soon […]

Let it Begin with Me: Ten Takeaways from My First Meeting

FROM “MY NEEDS? WHAT NEEDS?” (PART 2 of 3)

When I walked into my first Twelve Step meeting, I felt like a hollowed-out version of Wonder Woman. On the outside, I was taking on the […]

The Question That Changed Everything

FROM “MY NEEDS? WHAT NEEDS?” (PART 1 OF 3)

Nine years ago, when my husband walked into his first SA meeting (Sexaholics Anonymous; sa dot org), I knew exactly what HE needed. I knew he […]

And She Did.

Once upon a time, I went through a period of extreme emotional unpredictability. I’d cry uncontrollably, unexpectedly and inconveniently, all at the drop of a hat. My therapist explained that I was severely OVERSATURATED—I was […]

Oxygen Will Be Flowing

I wrote this share last summer, addressing it to my amazing S-Anon recovery community.

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While flying last week, enroute between CA and MN, I listened to the familiar refrain of the onboard flight attendants: “In […]

You’re Speaking My LIFE Language!

I wrote the following article last summer, at the request of my fellow ICA life coach Kristie Kennedy (www.kristiekenedy.com). It was fun to relive the memory of this Jerusalem story from ten+ years ago!

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