Helping You Help Others

Within a field like this one, it’s pretty impossible to truly “know it all.” I’ll be the first to raise my hand and admit “I DON’T know everything about anything.”

Because of that, I do the next best thing: I lean into the learning curves as deeply as I can, networking with some of the best, most progressive and most experienced colleagues within our field of practice.

Funny thing is? The longer I work and grow my own my professional skillset, I find my colleagues are reaching out and leaning back in my direction, too.

C-Spheres

In addition to my work with individual clients, I’m honored-yet-humbled to provide professional consultation and/or mentor coaching to colleagues within five distinct “c-spheres,” circles that comprise my network of professional influence:

  • clergy
  • clinicians
  • coaches
  • community leaders
  • counselors

Substance and Scope

Sometimes professional consultation is a “one and done” dynamic, a powerful conversation that quickly conquers some oddly-nuanced layer of a case that’s otherwise comfortably in-hand. Other times, consultation is a series of evolving conversations, helping colleagues to improve their acuity when navigating tricky topics, circumstances or complications. Occasionally, I’m honored to provide the kind of long-term coaching that empowers colleagues to feel supported across periods of months or years, often while advancing their own professional credentials or expanding their growing repertoire of specializations.

Whatever the substance and scope of our professional consultation, I offer you the same guarantee I give my non-colleague clients: if you’re not satisfied within your first (individual) or second (group) consultation session, I will happily refund you the cost of my fees paid to date. I also maintain my commitment to be honest about what I know and and what I don’t; if my qualifications do not ethically and effectively position me to help you, I consider it my responsibility to communicate that from the outset.

Mentor Coaching + Case Consultation 

Here’s a partial list of topics for which I commonly provide case consultation and mentor coaching:

  • Betrayal, Addiction, Trauma and Sexual Health (BATS)
  • Betrayal-Related Divorce Support
  • Betrayal-Related Loss, Grief and Mourning
  • Coaching as a Career? Options, Obstacles and Opportunities
  • Core Competencies for Life Coaches (Basic) and Specialty Coaches (Advanced)
  • Couples Coaching Considerations: You, Me and We
  • Group Development, Dynamics and Dilemmas
  • Mentor Coaching toward ICF Credentialing
  • Relational Trauma (Abandonment, Abuse, Addiction, Betrayal, Deception, Divorce, Infidelity and more)
  • Retreat and Conference Planning
  • Self-Care Support for Helping Professionals

Betrayal, Addiction, Trauma and Sexual Health (BATS) for New Life Coaches

For newly-trained or newly-transitioning life coaches, entering the high-stakes arena of betrayal, addiction, trauma and sexual health, I’m gonna be blunt: it takes a lot of time, training and application to anchor our proficiency and professional repertoire. After 20 years of personal experience, 13 years of personal healing, 6 years of client coaching and 600 hours of specialized training, mentor coaching and case consultation—I STILL feel like I’m barely scratching the surface of what it takes to do my job well.

The truth is, this isn’t a field wherein practitioners can simply “fake it ‘til we make it.” Because of that reality, we owe it to ourselves, our clients and world to take our professional development seriously. If you’re planning to grow into work within the BATS community, consider investing some time, money and energy into consultation with me; you deserve the assurance of knowing that whatever new situations you encounter with your BATS client cases, I’m here to help you with resources and reinforcement.

Support Group Dynamics: No Stupid Questions

Working with individual clients is one thing; working with multiple clients is a very different (and exponentially challenging) thing. From flooded participants to facilitator faux pas, professionals can be unexpectedly underprepared for the challenges involved in creating and maintaining a support group. As you bring your support group ideas, hopes and fears to the table, I’ll welcome you with my conviction that, when it comes to something as complex as support group dynamics, there are NO stupid questions!

Betrayal-Related Loss, Grief and Mourning

Betrayal-Related Grief (TM) is a complex form of traumatic loss, impacting ALL parties (not just the betrayed individual) in profound, compound and confounding ways. Equipped with extensive training from experts Dr. Alan Wolfelt (centerforloss.com), Susan Anderson (abandonment.net) and Heather Plett (heatherplett.com), I seek to help colleagues deepen your grasp on the vastly different types of grief your clients may be facing in response to relational trauma—especially at specific junctures when they (and perhaps you) feel decidedly “stuck.” From little known constructs for loss-and-grief literacy to underused applications, interventions and a fresh new vocabulary, I‘m eager to empower you with next-level tools that reach beyond the bedrock provided by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her classic work, “On Death and Dying.” In addition to one-on-one consultation, I’m grateful to offer occasional trainings about betrayal-related grief for professional colleagues. My next grief-focused workshop, Mourning to Move Forward, is scheduled for Thursday, November 21, 2019. To register for that workshop, click HERE.

Betrayal-Related Divorce Recovery

Supporting clients through separation and divorce is about SO MUCH MORE than lawyers and mediators—especially when it’s precipitated by sexual and relational betrayal. As an “equal-yet-opposite” counterpart to the complexities of couples work, divorce support requires a mature and nuanced skillset, one that (a) avoids even inadvertent projections or presumptions of failure, and (b) facilitates the forward-facing momentum necessary to help clients rebuild a shattered existence from the inside out.

As a credentialed divorce recovery coach, I’ve companioned nearly 100 divorced, divorcing and/or permanently separated survivors of sexual betrayal. Along the way, I’ve picked up a passion for this poignantly underserved demographic—along with a whole lot of “whatever you do, don’t (fill in the blank)” bits of insight and expertise. Perhaps you need a second opinion on one tough case, or maybe you’re considering a sub-specialty in the bigger picture of divorce-related work. Either way, please look me up and let’s chat about it! I’ll ask and answer some key questions, pointing you in a supportive and productive direction. Bonus: If you haven’t yet done so, please navigate over to my page, Alone in the Aftermath. At the bottom, you’ll find links to some of my favorite betrayal-related divorce support resources.

In addition to one-on-one consultation, I’m grateful to offer occasional trainings about betrayal-related divorce for professional colleagues. My next divorce-focused workshop, Alone in the Aftermath, is scheduled for Thursday, November 7, 2019. To register for that workshop, click HERE.

Training Workshops for Helping Professionals

Please email me for current training workshops, webinars and more.