For women whose relationships do NOT survive the impact of our partners’  sex addiction, porn addiction or other forms of problematic sexual behavior, certain recovery concepts—like grieving, healing, repairing and moving on—are VERY DIFFERENT than for those who remain within their relationships.

In my work with partners of sex addicts across all stages of relationship transition, I’ve observed a significant (albeit unintentional) degree of disparity, a impending sense of marginalization experienced by partners who ultimately separate and/or divorce. Too often, the unique needs of these women have gone unnoticed, unacknowledged and unmet, simply due to lack of resources that highlight, honor and address these fundamental distinctions.

Confronted with this challenge, I knew I had two options: I could call game over, or I could call game on.

So I took a deep breath. I rolled up my sleeves.
And I vowed to become part of the solution.

The rest, as they say, is history.

Are YOU healing from separation or divorce from an SA partner or spouse?
Or, are you a helping professional seeking to support your clients, community or congregation? If so, I invite you to explore the resources I’ve created exclusively for this demographic. With 7+ years of dedicated training, research, interviews and advocacy—including firsthand work with nearly 120 divorced, divorcing and separated partners of sex addicts—I’m humbled to provide an expansive collection of awareness, experience and expertise on this field of specialization.

Bottom line, there’s nothing worse than feeling “alone in the aftermath.” Starting now, I hope you feel a bit less alone.

Avenue D: “Road to Debridement”

Avenue D: “Road to Debridement” (aka “de-bride-ment”) is a 12-week, topic-based support group for divorced, divorcing and permanently separated partners of sex addicts. Avenue D incorporates original materials written by Gaelyn Emerson; each week’s topic is designed to uncover and explore a different emotional component of divorce recovery. Avenue D seeks to help women resolve their trauma through “remembrance and mourning,” processing their pain with purpose, presence and compassionate forward-focus. Click here to download more information.

DreamGirls: Designing Our New Lives
Unlike Avenue D’s topic-oriented approach, DreamGirls provides a flexible, open-ended and open-topic forum, for clients who are actively and independently exploring their “new normal,” alone in the aftermath of relationships mortally wounded by sexual betrayal. DreamGirls provides twice-weekly online coaching sessions, facilitated by Gaelyn Emerson. DreamGirls seeks to help women resolve their trauma through “reconnection,” inspiring them to rediscover, reclaim and reorient themselves—all within the context of other women who are doing it, too. Best of all? For clients who cannot afford the full group fee, DreamGirls invites participants to join on a “pay what you can” basis. Click here to download more information.

Alone in the Aftermath | Secret Facebook Group
Admission by invitation only. Click here to request membership.
Alone in the Aftermath | Recommended Reading List
Created for helping professionals. Click here to download.

My “Big Sexy Comeback” Story | Podcast Interview with Jenni Rochelle
Beauty After Betrayal, August 2021Click here to listen.
Creating a New Happily Ever After | Podcast Interview with Anna Osborn
Her Life Unscripted, August 2019Click here to listen.
Feeling and Healing from Abandonment | Podcast Interview with Geoff Steurer
Illuminate Podcast, April 2020Click here to listen.
Feeling and Healing from Sexual Rejection | Summit Interview with Jordann Alyce
Ready to Rise: Triumph Over Trauma, February 2020Click here to listen.
What Happens If I Need to Leave? | Radio Interview with Carol Sheets
APSATS Betrayal Recovery Radio, February 2018Click here to listen.
Divorce Support for Partners of Sex Addicts | Radio Interview with Carol Sheets
Sex Help with Carol the Coach, October 2016Click here to listen.

Alone in the AftermathSociety for the Advancement of Sexual Health
SASH Conference, September 2016Click here to listen.
From Separation to Sexploration: Navigating the Liminal Landscape of Post-Divorce SexSociety for the Advancement of Sexual Health
SASH Conference, October 2020Click here to listen.

BYOV: Be Your Own Valentine! | FREE Holiday Support + Sharing Sessions

February 13 and 14, 2019. Click here to reserve your space.

I’ll Be Home (Alone) for Christmas | FREE Holiday Support + Sharing Sessions
December 23, 2018. Click here to reserve your space.
How Can I Protect and Heal My Children? | Workshop
April 15, 2018. Click here to download event flyer.
Who Am I Beyond Betrayal Trauma? | Workshop
Spring 2017. Click here to download event flyer.

The Fable of the Bridge
On That Day
Eleven Words for Women Ever After
Be Still and Know? Dear God, You Must Be Joking

Having sex (or not) after separation or divorce? Either way, I want to hear about it!


The Women Ever After Identity Project